Sometimes it is difficult to distinguish the difference between a wish and a goal when directing our children. Below are two conversations between Johnny Appleseed and his mother. Which one is a goal and which is a wish?

“Johnny, in order for you to get your cell phone back on the weekends, you will need to get better grades.”

“Johnny, in order to get your cell phone back on the weekends, I will need to see your grades in English, Science, and Math increase by one letter grade on the next progress report.”

The first example shows the hope Johnny’s mother has that he will do better and with no specifics for the child to aim for — it is a wish. The second example is very specific and both Johnny and his mother are able to see whether or not the goal has been reached.Having goals helps a child know specifically what they need to do. Sit down with your child and see if you can set some realistic academic goals today. Homeroom Coaches and special education teachers are great resources for setting up realistic goals.